Healing with someone new while still carrying fear feels unfair, not just to oneself, but to the person who might unknowingly become a distraction instead of a partner.

Using someone else as a way to forget past hurt turns healing into avoidance. That kind of healing is rushed, and rushed healing often leaves damage behind.

Choosing to heal alone is choosing honesty, about where the heart truly is and what still needs to be faced.

So yes, staying alone while watching someone else heal and find happiness can hurt. But healing isn't about holding on; it's about letting go without bitterness.

If their happiness exists without you, that's something to accept, not interfere with. Love, at its most mature, allows people to grow, even when that growth happens separately.

And if seeing them happy still causes pain, it doesn't mean weakness. It simply means healing isn't finished yet.

Pain isn't failure; it's a signal that there's still something left to understand, to process, to release.

True healing isn't measured by how fast someone moves on, but by how gently they learn to live with the past until it no longer controls them.

Healing alone may feel heavier, but it's the kind of healing that leads to real freedom.