June 16, 2026
I Don’t Know What I’m Doing And You Shouldn’t Follow Me
Hello, I Have 39 Years of Experience in Life and No Idea What I’m Doing
Rebecca Designs A Life
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Hello, I'm Rebecca. I've been alive for 39 years and I'm still pretty clueless about how to do…. a lot of things.
I don't know how to write a bestseller, or how to make a living from art, or how to create an automated system to make $$$ in your sleep, or how to monetize social media, or the best way to parent, or what to do when mom starts falling a lot, or the answer to why everything feels so empty lately.
I don't know what I'm doing.
Not here on Medium, not in parenting, not in business, not in life.
I'm getting out of bed every morning and trying to do the things. Drink enough water. Eat some fiber. Not yell at the kids. Find clients. Build a brand. Read some books — feeding your mind is important. Create some art — feeding your soul is important, too.
I don't know what I'm doing, so how could I possibly tell you how to do life better?
If you're looking for fool-proof advice on how to live or parent or age gracefully or make money or be a better writer….
Keep looking. You won't find any guarantees here.
What you will find here is someone who is trying, and growing, and learning.
Learning to be kinder to myself and to others. Learning that it's okay to try new things and do them poorly. Learning to accept what is, for now, and work for better in the future.
I don't know what I'm doing, so if you're looking for someone to show you the way, it isn't me.
But if you're looking for someone to walk along this twisty path of life with, one foot in front of the other with a hand offered to help when we stumble, maybe you have, after all, found your place.
So don't follow me, but maybe, if you'd like, we could walk each other home.
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I Will Prove Myself by Falling Apart That's the thing about emotional suppression
Why Making New Friends at 40 Feels So Difficult As we grow older, finding genuine connection often becomes harder than finding success.
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