I do not believe in the 'see finish' culture. And I find it both amusing and sad that people think they can actually see a human being _finish_.

This culture rooted in fear and consumerism is why many relationships today stay stagnant and or eventually collapse.

Because, you see in the 'see finish' gallery you are not 'seen' to be appreciated, you are 'seen' so that you can be consumed. And what happens after ones appetite is sated, the food is abandoned and if not returned to, it goes stale.

And what this means in foresight is the real you is overlooked, abandoned, left without the support necessary for growth.

You see, 'see finish' exist as a result of unhealthy dynamics in a relationship. 'cause in healthy relationships it is the individuals desire that they are 'seen' because being fully seen equals being understood and being understood equals being loved.

Vulnerability in a healthy relationship is an asset, it is proof that the relationship is safe, and thus vulnerability is treasured as it ensures individuals in the relationship always know where they stand. Which makes it much easier to offer support. As each persons blind spots are obvious to one another. Even when they aren't to an individual.

Enter 'see finish' a term that also means fully known but not in a way of understanding, in a way of consumption. Here vulnerability is a risk, a liability. For everytime you show 'weakness' it is either exploited or mocked. And, so overtime you either shrink or show up in bits and pieces, afraid of being completely seen.

Officer 'see finish' thus enforces the law that to be yourself is to be consumed. Which leads to an erasure of self, as individuals in relationships where 'see finish' culture exist now camouflage who they are.

Slowly this distortion becomes the reality of the relationship. Showing up in repeated unresolved conflicts and or inability to be truly vulnerable.

And if you can not be vulnerable in a relationship, it means you are not safe, and if you are not safe, you will seek to protect yourself, oftentimes at the expense of the bonds of the relationship.

Eventually as the bonds wear thinner and thinner, they snap and the relationship collapses, emotional and or physically.