I recently met a man who doesn't have a birth certificate. I, on the other hand, know fully well I turned 48 this summer. I don't show it, they tell me. But whether I show it or not, the truth is I've been around for almost half a century.

I met a man who doesn't know his own age and estimates he's around 30, on a sex-is-allowed beach in the South of France. Perhaps you've heard all about it. It has a hilarious name, which translates into the Bay of Pigs. You get the idea.

As soon as some action starts, a flock of people gather around to enjoy the spectacle with front-seat views.

A few moments after we were introduced, his fingers slid between my thighs. There was something so pure in his eyes that I knew he was not the regular exhibitionist beach type. I explain to him that people would gather like bees and we take off for my apartment.

My dear reader if you're a millennial, you may not get what is the fuss about the so-called midlife crisis. If you are a Gen-X or a boomer, you get it I'm sure.

I choose to call it my mid-life opportunity. It's my opportunity to create the life I wanted. When I was young. Professionally, personally, in all walks of life to be who I wanted to be. Now that I've sat on my therapist's couch for plenty of hours, and my inner voices are no longer holding me back.

We all have dreams, goals, aspirations, and desires, in life. We all have a history. A past. Hopefully a future. But the most precious gift of life is the present. Sometimes these dreams and desires were forgotten, put in the back seat, and deprioritized. Life happened. In our forties, we learn that life's too short not to be cherished. That there's still time to go for what lights us up, what brings passion and spark into our lives.

I wasn't always a sex-above-food-or-sleep kind of girl.

At 48, Mondays arrive and I've been naughty and busy all weekend. I face my colleagues' how-was-your-weekend Monday morning questions with a cryptic smile.

This year I've bought more sexy lingerie, sex toys, and tickets to sex parties than in all my previous years together.

I've met more men — and women — than in all my 30s, and 20s combined.

And I embrace my sluttiness with zero guilt, remorse, or self-criticism. Zero.

It's my way of coping with the stressful week. My self-care practice which involves a lot of orgasms and has given my social life a real boost.

Why women feel more sexual in their 40s

High sex drive or not, we all go through stages in our lives where our focus will go elsewhere. Because we have children we're building our career or otherwise. For women, this will typically happen in their early 30s.

Men will often complain that their spouse or partner is not inclined to have sex with them as often as they desire her.

She's exhausted from managing different priorities and playing various roles, stress is a libido killer and so are sleepless nights when you're a new mom.

Relationship fatigue and routine would be another reason women will typically start turning on the other side of the pillow or even pretend they're asleep. Let's face it. It's not only men who don't like eating the same food every day. We're pretty much the same species when it comes to routine and how it can kill our libido.

In your 40s you may find yourself divorced and single or still married and fighting to give your marriage to breathe some new life into your marriage. You may not have kids, or your kids are grown up, and more independent.

You find pockets of time to do things for you. You find bouts of energy you thought were forever depleted and gone. You find chances to be selfish again as you were in your 20s. To be self-caring but with the wisdom of your 40s. Without the insecurities of youth.

And surprisingly you still have it. Stuff that excited you still excites you.

Your inner child is loud and clear. Girls — STILL- want to have fun.

You finally feel comfortable in your skin

He's on top of you and you're thinking of your tummy. You're on your knees and your mind goes to all the imperfections of your gluts. Does this sound familiar?

It can be very difficult to enjoy sex if you are insecure about being naked, says Kayla Broek, a sex and relationship coach.

As we age, our self-confidence rises. We may have new wrinkles and new lines, and gravity has new power on us — hello droopy tits — yet we are finally at a place where we know who we are and we accept who we are. This is our time. Our time to show up and be in the present and enjoy every passing moment because that imperfection only makes us more unique and desirable.

Lately, I spent 1 week with my lover without a birth certificate. One week of morning, afternoon, and night sex. It was a regular week for me. I worked mostly from home, went out food shopping, and cooked for dinner. Yet there was so much free time, so much desire, so much looking each other in the eyes and jumping into each other's arms again and again, and again.

If you're going through a rough spot in your 30s and you think your life is over, I'm here to tell you there's light at the end of the tunnel. And don't forget this life is a rollercoaster, not a straight line.

Wait for it. It's going up again.