I know you're dying to know…
I'm Gigi and I write romance books.
You know, the ones that talk about throbbing cocks and sweet cunts.
I like the fantasy of romance novels. While I definitely wouldn't fall for the bad boy in real life, they're super fun to write. And I may not want my fiancé to choke me — or do I? — but again, it's fun to write about.
Romance novels are sexy, fun, and fictional. So, do people really talk during sex the way they do in romance novels?
Maybe. And maybe not.
I write romance books. Here's what I actually say during sex.
I compliment him on his cock.
Yes, it's true. I tell him that I like his hard, thick cock.
Now, I don't describe it the way that I do in books, because I am not narrating our sex life to an audience. But you may be surprised to know that the sexy dialogue you find in romance novels can actually work well in your real-life sex.
I mean, what guy doesn't want to hear that you're into his cock?
"I love how hard your cock feels inside of me."
"I love when I grab your dick and feel you get hard in my hand when I stroke you."
"Your cock is f*cking perfect… you know that?"
The "trick" to dirty talk — if there is such a thing — is that it's best when it is natural. You don't want to sound like you are reading lines from a book.
You want to mean what you say. Don't worry about sounding silly.
I get graphic about what I want him to do and how.
Another tip to really juicy dirty talk is being specific about what you want your person to do to you.
This makes sense, right? You are openly communicating in your sex life, plus you are getting what you want in bed. It's also incredibly sexy to be in bed with someone who knows what they want.
"I want you to f*ck me from behind."
"Stop what you're doing and go down on me. Right. Now."
"Keep grinding into my clit… just like that."
Again, don't overthink this. Just really get in tune with your body and what feels good.
It may take some practice, but ultimately, this kind of dirty talk is beneficial for both of you. You get what you want in bed, your partner gets to give that to you, and it's a huge turn-on for you both.
I definitely say words that I don't normally say in real life.
There's a bit of a shock value when it comes to dirty talk that works well.
In my day-to-day, I am not really using harsh curse words. I'm more on the good-girl side of life. That makes dirty talk in bed so much more stimulating.
My fiancé always says that it is really sexy to hear me talk like this in bed.
It kind of plays into the whole lady in the streets/freak in the sheets bit.
Just drop a few f-bombs. Talk about your p*ssy or your c*nt.
Get filthy with your language. It's actually pretty fun, especially in a safe space with your partner. See what feels comfortable to you, but also, don't be afraid to push the envelope just a bit.
I don't f*cking hold back.
Here's the deal: you want to commit.
I talk dirtier with my fiancé than I have ever talked with anyone else in bed because I feel comfortable and safe there. Plus, I get the reaction that I want from him when I'm vocal in bed.
Not everyone wants to or needs to talk like a romance writer in bed.
But if you're curious about talking dirtier in bed, I highly recommend reading romance books.
Romance books can spark that creative tongue of yours.
Reading new romance books definitely helps me stay fresh with both my language and my moves in bed.
At the end of the day, I don't hold back. I say what I want to say. I say what I want. I say what I feel.
And it's really freeing to be able to be like this during sex. I wasn't always this way. Maybe it's because I am in the right relationship. Maybe it's because I'm becoming more confident in my sexuality.
Or, maybe it's all those romance books.
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Gigi Love is a romance writer with all of her books available on Amazon. She writes short romances about football players, virgins, and more. She writes about feminism and sex for Medium. She loves coffee.