No friends, new town, new job, low self-esteem, trauma, depression, social anxiety. Sometimes it's all. Sometimes none of it. Sometimes it makes sense. Sometimes not. Sometimes it's you. Sometimes the others. Sometimes both.

There is no single cure for everyone. That is why it's not easy to deal with. Loneliness is a civilizing disease like diabetes, hypertension, or obesity.

The Internet defines 'loneliness' as:

'Sadness because one has no friends'

If so, why lots of lonely people live in big families, work in big, international corporations, or are famous? How can it be, that people surrounded by others still feel loneliness?

Normally, when we have a message to the world, opinion, question, emotion to talk about our brain sends a message to receive by the other person and waits for feedback. When there aren't any people on the other side, our thoughts are staying with us.

After some time, you may start to feel trapped inside your mind. With no one to listen to what we have to say we feel useless, no needed like the world doesn't care. And low self-esteem becomes even lower, depression is constantly growing, the same as social anxiety.

Loneliness blinds you. Tricks you. Lets you look in the mirror, in which you can see safety, acceptance. Imagine a great bubble surrounds you. At first, it becomes your comfort zone, your home, safe Elysium. It feels good not to hear criticism, to be accepted, not hated. But soon it will become a prison. A prison with no escape way. With no place to hide. Just you and your phobia.

Let's back to the question I asked a minute ago. How can it be, that people surrounded by others still feel loneliness? Because it is no difference in being surrounded by people, or not. The question is, are you connected to your surroundings, or not?

Old psychiatric methods were based on one world story. One Ring to rule them all…sorry, I'm a fan. Let me start again. The one world story was about the definition, that there is only one world. And the question they asked was — are you belong or not?

Well, there is not only one world. Everyone belongs to their own worlds. Wherever and whoever people are, every single person has a right to create their own system of values and follow it.

If you applied to law school, and feel disconnected it doesn't mean that there must be something wrong with you, or school. It means, that even if it is someone else's world, it doesn't mean to be yours.

Sometimes you realize that late. Sometimes right after making a choice. Whenever it will be, remember one thing — you're not obliged to want something, only because someone else wants it. Never.

Life is constant change. We grow, we age, we change. No matter how many calculations will you do, there are some changes that will still surprise you. And just because you feel different, it doesn't mean for you to be alone, no. There are more people like you, more introverts, more nerds. I am one of them. The thing is, that you need to stay connected with even a few people not because it's a social norm. There is no we, or us in y o u r life, only you. Find these people, stay in touch with them. You're not the only lonely person.

There are a lot of stereotypes about us introverts. That we're shy, depressed and we don't like people. That's not exactly how it is.