The differences between men and women in relationships are so fascinating, and it's something I constantly write about in my free time. Because there is a discrepancy between what I am conditioned to believe as a woman and what the reality of relationships are, and the role everyone thinks I should play as the woman.

Truthfully, some men are much smarter than we give them credit for.

Why?

Because they know how to be served in relationships.

Men do not look at love the way we do. Why do you think chick flicks exist?

As women, we are taught to always strive for fairy tales while laboring for the men that feed us these same ideologies. I see women performing as free maids, therapists, and mother figures to their husbands and boyfriends, all while believing that they are in a loving relationship.

If that isn't a powerful spell, I don't know what is.

From my observation, some men really could care less about love. They look at the emotion of love as an automatic feeling that comes with the woman they're with. These men care about being served first and foremost, and they have an agenda for every woman they come across.

Now what's our "agenda" as women? To feel like we are in love. That's it.

Notice how women who move through relationships like men are demonized as gold diggers. Which is interesting, because men are praised for expecting tangible benefits in relationships. If a woman expects more than some hugs, kisses, cuddles, and I love you's she is considered to be the spawn of Satan. And I see "happily married" wives and naive girlfriends who are drained from their relationships chastising these women more than the men are.

The only labor of love that's expected from men is to keep women hanging on to the idea that they are being served equally as their men are. Which is a falsehood. Being served verbal and emotional crumbs in your relationship while you go above and beyond for your man is not equality. And never will be.

I implore women to examine what they really want from their counterpart, and expect tangible benefits for their time like men do. Time is money. And for some women, your boss compensates you better for your time than your own man does.

Love is a given. Quit allowing men to have undeserved access to you while providing little to no benefit in your life.

Originally published at https://sannilark.com.