My take on Nigeria's most talked-about movie…

Kemi Adetiba's blockbuster movie To Kill a Monkey (#TKAM) is one of the most talked-about Nigerian films in recent years. While characters like Oboz have stolen the spotlight, Nosa's character stands out for a deeper reason - her marriage choices.

Nosa begins as the doting, supportive wife of Efe, standing by him through poverty and struggle. But as Efe's world changes (with both wealth and crime), Nosa's actions spark serious debates among viewers: Was she loyal, or did she fail her marriage when it mattered most?

In this To Kill a Monkey movie review, let's break down 5 major mistakes Nosa made and what she could have done differently.

1. Keeping Quiet in the Face of Crime

When Efe first started working with Oboz, Nosa didn't question the source of the sudden wealth. Even after realizing his work was illegal, she stayed silent, and by doing so, became complicit. She should have confronted Efe immediately, expressing her fears and setting clear boundaries. If he refused to stop, she could have stepped back or sought safer ways to protect their family. Silence may have felt like loyalty, but it only dragged her deeper into the mess.

2. Prioritizing Her Children Over Her Husband

Nosa's fierce love for her children is admirable, but she let that love turn into an attack against her husband. She saw Efe as the "enemy" when the problems unfolded, forgetting that his every move was meant to provide for them. Instead of attacking Efe, she should have joined forces with him to find ways to shield their kids. They could have strategized together (perhaps sending the children to relatives for safety) while presenting a united front.

3. Turning Her Back on Efe When Things Got Tough

When the walls closed in, Nosa abandoned Efe emotionally. She had stood by him when the money was flowing, but when the consequences of his actions appeared, she chose to fight him instead of standing with him. If she was with him during the rise, she should have supported him in the fall, not by condoning wrongdoing, but by offering encouragement, kindness, and problem-solving instead of judgment and resentment.

4. Retaliating by Sleeping with the Doctor

Efe's infidelity was wrong, but Nosa's revenge (having an affair with the doctor) only worsened the situation. Retaliation never brings healing. She could have stepped back or separated temporarily to process the betrayal, rather than retaliating. Healing or deciding to leave would have brought her more dignity and clarity.

5. Hiding Financial Decisions

When Nosa secretly bought a house, it was a huge betrayal of trust. Transparency is the backbone of any marriage, and doing this behind Efe's back (especially while enjoying his money) was a major misstep. She could have included him in her financial plans or at least explained her intentions. Building wealth as a couple requires trust and open communication.

Nosa's character in To Kill a Monkey is a mirror for many real-life marriages - full of loyalty, love, but also silent betrayals and misguided decisions. She was strong, yes, but her mistakes cost her far more than she imagined.

If there's one takeaway from Nosa's story, it's this: Marriage is about unity, trust, and teamwork. When either partner hides, retaliates, or turns away, the entire structure collapses.