I am 33 years young! And when I tell you that I am craving sex 24/7, I am not kidding. Sunday, Monday, morning, noon, night, etc. I always thought it was because I have a hyper-sex drive, but when I started talking to my friends, We all noticed something we had in common — our sex drive changed.

When I get that itch, that tingle, I start to display myself like a cat in heat. Screw the dishes, screw the laundry, and screw me — literally! Since I am a nymphomaniac, my mating methods are a bit extreme. Instead of being casual with lingerie or sexy stares, I decide it is more efficient too (quite literally) to inhale my bottom lip and sit on my partner's lap like an obstinate puppy. And I won't move until my ritual is noticed!

Men and women have sexual peaks, when they tend to be "more in the mood" than usual. There are plenty of scientific reasons, theories, and opinions as to why, but nonetheless, there are also many signs that point to a woman being in the mood. Did you know that men play a pivotal role in a woman's desire for sex? Strangely, most men don't seem to realize that they hold the flame to light a woman's candle or are trying to light that flame in a windstorm with a water stick.

Age is more than a number!

According to many studies, women start to lose their sexual libido at a certain age. The late 30s and beyond. (Just my luck.) With the progression and digression of hormones, life, bodily changes, etc., sexual intimacy becomes something only talked about in tales — or sitcoms.

This isn't the circumstance for every woman, but the majority rules. Why is that? Aside from all the obvious reasons, changes in the body, stresses of life, why does age seem to affect sexual desire? I will give you my personal opinion. While losing sexual interest can be explained scientifically, I Still have my own opinions. And while it is my personal experience, it is a valid one.

Everything is ideal when we first start dating. When we fall in love and are in our honeymoon phase. Our desire is as intense as our need for air when our hormones are at their maximum peak. But as we grow accustomed to our partners — or lack thereof — other activities often take the place of sex. Life, stress, and bills. Your former sexual relationship has diminished to the status of a familiar face. Just a friend. Someone with whom to share life.

Rekindle the flame

The idea of sexual intimacy isn't as strong as it once was. Hence, the phrase, rekindling the flame. Do you realize that can be changed? The stagnancy in the bedroom is only so because of repetition. It's kind of like starting your first job. You love it, it's exciting, it's new. But after a while, it just becomes a habit. You have to change that habit. You have to change your environment and sexual intimacy. You must take that mundane activity and transform it into your dream job.

Stop looking at your person as someone who used to turn you on. It would help if you looked at them with a fresh pair of eyes. Try new things and be more erotic. Be more spontaneous; instead of just relying on casual sex before bed, be kinky, and surprise her while she's taking a shower. Look at 90% of TV shows, movies, etc.; they almost always portray married couples as sexless. If not sexless, they bargain for intimacy, the wives roll over while the men beg, or they make casual jokes about needing to get laid.

I would die without sex. My partner and I are 30±year-old savage dogs in heat even after ten years, and with a toddler. Why? Because my partner takes the time to notice my moods. And instead of throwing his man meat at me, he makes me want it by teasing me in more intimate ways.

Most women (I assume) are emotional creatures. We are intimate creatures. We crave and desire the need to be sexually wanted. You would be surprised at how sexually enticed your female partner can get from simple, intimate gestures.

Period, point-blank!

"A robust body of research has demonstrated shifts in women's sexual desire and arousal across the menstrual cycle, with heightened desire and arousal coincident with heightened probability of conception (POC), and it is likely that ovarian hormones modulate these shifts." — Talia N. Shirazi —

So. I am a woman, and I can confidently verify that, yes, when I am due, or on my period, sexual desire is at its peak. Maybe this has to do with evolution? The biological need to pro-create? Maybe not. Whatever it is, a lot of women tend to feel it in their bodies. The need and want to be touched and explored. That doesn't mean we want to be ravaged. Remember, men and women crave and view sexual pleasure differently at times.

If you are one of those men who know your partner's menstrual cycle, then you should probably use that to your advantage, obviously, in a non-creepy way. Given that her body is changing, and scientifically, her body might be urging for something specific, you should act on that. Haven't you earned your red wings yet?

Vulnerability

Be more sensual, be more erotic. Explore her body in more intimate ways without expecting sexual intercourse. I have said this many times, and I will say it again. Women don't get turned on the same way men do.

Most of us women like to be caressed, enticed, and teased. If you are trying to get us horny, you need to look at intimacy on a more personal level than just being physical. Caressing, whispering, touching, teasing, these are all the things that our bodies crave. And if you pay attention to the signs, we will let you know when we are craving intimacy. Sometimes, we would rather be tossed on the bed and conquered by your Roman Empire, but not all the time.

This isn't for every woman, but I would bet a pretty penny that most women want sexual intimacy when they are the most vulnerable. That time of the month is pretty vulnerable. We are neurotic, we are stressed, and our bodies are raging war against us. This is the perfect time to show tenderness and sensuality — tend to our bodies in the most sensual way. Doing so, more times than not, will result in your partner being more sexually interested in you because of intimacy, trust, and vulnerability.

Climax

When it comes to knowing the perfect time to approach your female partner sexually, you need to pay attention to their signs. Stop thinking about what you want and pay attention to what they want. I feel most men assume women want to be sexual like men do. You have to understand, that most women, in my opinion, crave intimacy. We don't want you to put your penis in our face all the time; we don't care how hard your abs are, and we don't need to be raw dogged from the back. Sometimes, we need to be desired on a more intimate level. A woman is at her horniness when her partner knows how to touch her the right way.

I re-vamped my OnlyFans and plan to teach classes there. Obviously, on a more personal level. I hope to see you join, so I can share more of my sexual expertise with you!

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