It hurts you and the other person. How can you love someone without getting attached to that person? This is one of the frequent questions that people have in their minds.

Well, to understand about this. First of all, you need to understand what is the difference between love and attachment.

If you are in love with someone, if you fall in love with someone, this means pure love. I would say that I need you to be happy. That's what you say. I need you to be happy. If that happiness includes me, that's much better.

If it does not include me, it's ok too. Anyway, I need you to be happy in your life. That is love and in attachment, you say you need to make me happy.

If they are not able to make you happy, then what do you say? The love you give to me and the, things that you do to me are not enough. That's what you say that is called attachment.

Do you think about other people's happiness? As a result of thinking about other people's happiness or wishing for other people's happiness, you get the same thing back.

In attachment, you wish your happiness only that you become. It's a form of selfishness.

Here's how it happens. You see this person and you think like, he or she is perfect for me. He's the best thing for me. And I want to be with that person forever. I need to be with him or her forever. I know I don't want to let that person go of my life. I don't want that, let that person live my life. I need to be with that person. In that case, you hold on to that person tightly.

You grab that person and you don't want to let go of that person. Then what you do in the next step, you try to protect him or her.

Sometimes you overprotect him or her. So some people put restrictions like you should not go and talk with other people. Remember the more you try to hold on to someone's life, the more you try to control someone's life, chances are very high for you to lose that person.

You live in your private world, so let others live too in their world

You create your private world, you create your happiness, you create your sadness and everything that you create is created by yourself. Your world is created by yourself.

So it goes the same with others. They are living in their private private world. Same as you like to be happy and the same as you like to be free. Those people around you like to be happy and free.

So what happens when you try to put restrictions on someone? No one likes to be totally under the control of someone. They need to have some sort of freedom in their life. So chances are very high for you to lose that person if you try to protect and overprotect and hold on to it and hold on to that person.

You think about what happens if you lose that person. My whole world will be a disaster. Remember the reality of life is no one in this world is permanent. Everyone, everything, and every experience in this life is subjected to change, that is the reality of life. This is how attachment happens.

But in love, you come to the reality. When you love someone correctly and purely without too much attachment, you come to this reality to this real world, you know that these people around you are not going to live forever with you. It's not going to happen.

Remember that everyone around you, Every person who loves you and who you love is going to leave you. You have to be separated from these people. I know it is painful. It is difficult to think because we love people.

We are afraid of losing them but one day, sooner or later, this will happen, at least at the death it will happen. So we have to leave these people around us.

When you realize that is the reality that I have very little time with these people. So you show your love, affection, kindness, and compassion to this person in the best way that you can in this little time.

The second thing is that everyone in their world is suffering. We suffer in our private worlds. So we have our own private and personal sufferings seems like others also are suffering in their life. So if we expect other people to fulfill all our needs and all our requirements, that's not going to happen, you need to realize it.

No one in this world is totally under your control. You cannot control the people around you. We worry about the people that we cannot control.

Can you control people's behavior? No, you cannot do that. Can you control how people behave and how people treat you, how people talk to you, how people think about you? No, that is their own business.

So what you can control is how you live in your life, the way you live in your personal life, that is totally under your control.

Once you understand these things, you will learn how to be compassionate to people. How to love people and then you can wish no matter what happens to you. If you stay with me or if you do not stay with me, it's OK.

I wish the good of you. I wish the happiness of you. Then that love will never hurt you.

But attachment, when you get too attached to people, it will definitely hurt you. So wish the good for everyone. Wish happiness to everyone. Then you will find the business that you're seeking in your life now.