Relationships are more complex than they seem. Let's take a deep look at first, two human beings, two hearts on different rythms, two brains means different thoughts and different needs.

No matter how much a couple say: "oh, we're so compatible!", they'll still be different.

Both of the sides won't realize it, until they reach what I like to call "the plot twist of the relationship".

Each relationship is unique, the experience varies but the stages stay the same. The road that each couple walk in is exactly the same, but it's the shoes that alter the experience.

The initial stage, which is "Attraction". Attraction can be the first long stare at someone, and the feeling wanting to get to know them better than you already do. You basically feel drawn to them.

The next two stages are related in my opinion, the relation between them is causal. "Romantic and honeymoon stages". Romantic stage is where you start feeling infatuation and passion. Everything feels like an adrenaline rush. This stage serves as a teaser to "the honeymoon stage" where you feel like it's perfect, like this person is from another world, they seem so unreal you start to neglect your partner's flaws or what we call nowadays "red flags".

These two stages might make you fall in a toxic relationship of some type. That's why, you gotta be conscious enough about what's happening to leave before it's too late. One day, you'll realize you're too attached to let go, and that'll harm you to the core.

"The reality stage" or what I called "the plot twist". When you reach this phase, the gold rose sparkly membrane surrounding your pupil is missing. You start to see clearly the flaws you weren't aware of. Fights and arguments increase in this stage, which make both of you question yourselves: "did I make the right decision of choosing a lifetime partner?".

I called it a plot twist because a lot of people wake up to reality and realization, they get slapped and let go of a relationship that was going to be perfect if they acted maturely by accepting their partner and trying to live with their flaws, but not toxicity, be aware!

The next step is "Commitment", where both of you answer the previous question; if yes then they go through hardships together and build trust, a healthy communication and mutual respect. If no then it ends here.

So what's the right answer?

Believe me, there's no right answer because it depends on your experience and the person you're with.

The upcoming phase is "Deep attachment" where they are bound by an emotional tether, and this paves the way to the "Mature love stage", this gives rise to strong emotional connection and a significance of companionship and intimacy that makes the love everlasting.

I hope you enjoyed reading this article. You can give your opinion if you want 🫂💐.