The more we grow up, the more we heal and improve our emotional intelligence. We become attached to someone; we become attached to things. We become wise and ignorant at the same time.

We start making mistakes. We start feeling self-respect. But when we start caring our self-respect too much with our family, relatives and our loved ones, then we start creating distance with them. And in our whole life, we always try to maintain this distance. Most of the time, we don't try to break this barrier.

We preach that "to err is human" But our action is as like "to be right is human."

In our childhood, we are very close to our family members, close to relatives.

They love us, kiss us, hug us and support us.

But when we begin growing up. We start facing problems. The problems of money, love, caring; and then we start complaining.

Let me give you an example.

You ask your father for a car, and he is not agreed to give you the money. Distance starts.

Suppose you're with a girl, but your parents don't like your girl. And distance starts.

So next time when you greet your parents, then there is something missing.

And it's not that you don't love your parents for that reason. It also not that they don't love you. They also love you, you also love them, but both of you made a barrier.

Any of you can break this barrier in a second, but as I mentioned above that, you start growing self-respect. So to feed your self-respect, you are not able to break this barrier in a second. If we go inside this self-respect, then we will find that it's not self-respect; it's ego, lousy ego.

And it doesn't happen not only with family members. It also can happen with your girlfriend/boyfriend. You can try to remember when did you argue with your girlfriend? Hopefully, now it's solved. Now think that what a silly matter you argued.

When we are too attached with a person, we can also forget this small lousy ego.

But there is some relationship. We can't fix it anymore.

I have seen many families. The family members love each other very much, but there's a small barrier, and this barrier can't let them laugh together, eat together, care for each other.

Now, you understood clearly the process of distance in the relationship.

For any relationship, we need to do work; we need to make it deep till we die.

If you love your family members or your partner, then talk with them. And end the barrier, communication is the best. They neither read your mind thoroughly, nor you can read them. And what we create that is doubt. And most of the time if our doubt is wrong, that doubt is strong which not lead us in a happy ending. In the end, what we get just mistakes.

How you want to arrange your love, your luck; those are totally on your hands. So don't let the mistakes win. Just communicate, ask directly why are they suddenly behaving strange and give them your logic, listen to them. And I am sure they will agree with your logic in the end because they love you.

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