So to set the picture, I am no authority on LGBTQ identity. I'm a straight, heterosexual married male with a few close gay friends. But last night I was watching TV, and they were doing one of those interviews on the street. They were asking people for their thoughts on gay marriage and if their perception of homosexuality has changed since their marriages became legal.

Most were pretty neutral, indifferent or happy about the changes.

But then one person said something that seriously made me cringe and compelled me to share my thoughts with my Medium friends and community (and I'm up for correction, ridicule or anything you would like to throw at me, so go for it!).

So the cringeworthy comment from one guy was;

"What they do in the bedroom is their business"

Eeek….

It's not the first time this has been said but it's been a while since I've heard it and I guess since the world has changed, so has my reaction to this point of view.

When someone uses this phrase, it now becomes painfully apparent to me that they have a seriously limited ability to think beyond a narrow mindset.

The reason for my discomfort is simple: it's not about what happens in the bedroom. Duh!

In fact, what happens in the bedroom is the least important aspect of the lives of same-sex couples.

What they truly need is recognition, understanding, and equal treatment in the world outside the bedroom.

For same-sex couples, the battle for equality is not about the intimate details of their private lives but rather about the everyday experiences that many take for granted.

For some reason, people seem to focus solely on the sex. Why? That screams 'projection' to me and tells me that their own minds are in the gutter and they aren't developed mature enough to think beyond sex.

It's about being able to walk down the street hand in hand without being subjected to judgmental stares.

It's about not having to make excuses or put on a facade to make others feel more comfortable when they are around same-sex couples or marriages.

It's about equal rights, plain and simple.

The fixation on what happens inside the bedroom is not only obnoxious and oblivious, but it's also a rude and arrogant way of thinking.

More importantly, it misses the point entirely.

When does the sexual aspect of a 'traditional couples' life become a part of the conversation when discussing their lives?

Rarely, if ever.

We don't pry into the intimate details of heterosexual relationships during public discussions, so why should we do it for same-sex couples?

I know things are changing for the better, but for these obnoxious individuals, it just feels like it's time for them to shift the focus away from what happens in the bedroom and toward understanding and acceptance outside it.

Same-sex couples, like anyone else, want to live their lives free from discrimination, prejudice, and the constant scrutiny of their private affairs.

Their love and commitment are no different from any other couple's, and they deserve the same rights and respect.

So, the next time you hear someone ask, "What they do in the bedroom is their business" perhaps remind them that that it's not about what happens behind closed doors.

It's about recognizing the humanity, love, and equality that should extend beyond the bedroom and into every aspect of life.

It's time to move beyond the narrow mindset that fixates on the intimate details and instead embrace a broader perspective of acceptance and understanding.

Rant over!